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christian women and pornChristian women and porn are two concepts that don’t seem to go together, right?  However, I know what it feels like to be caught in the trap of pornography as a Christian woman.   Yes, I have struggled with pornography.   It is not something that I am proud of, and to be honest, it is something that I wish never happened, but God is using this dark season from my past for His good.

You see, I travel and speak across the United States to both teens and adults. Once God prompted me to start sharing my testimony of how He freed me from the grips of pornography, teen girls and women began to confide in me their struggles with pornography.

You Are Not Alone If You Struggle with Porn

In fact, pornography is a fast growing problem, even among Christian women. Our goal is to offer hope and resources to help you overcome this trap of the enemy.

Pornography is something that many women are addicted to but not talking about, especially in the church.  It is impacting families and marriages and controlling many peoples’ lives. For many people, myself included at one time, all they can think about is the next time they will be able to access their computer or the next thrill they will get.

Some get hooked innocently through another person showing it to them or through an ad while surfing the Internet. Others are bored and get drawn into chat rooms or webcams that eventually lead them down the path of getting trapped into a pornography addiction.

Although men are the ones typically drawn to porn due to their visual nature, women are also getting hooked. Even Christian women in good marriages, who are active in ministry, are getting trapped into this sin.

My co-author, S’ambrosia Curtis and I pray that if you or someone you know is struggling with an addiction to pornography, you will find hope and help within this website and our book, “Christian Woman’s Guide to Breaking Free From Pornography.”  Ultimately, our hope comes from Jesus Christ, but it also comes from knowing we are not alone and that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Freedom from pornography is possible!

Now may the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, that you may abound in hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.    Romans 15:13

~Shelley Hitz


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  1. AmyChristine Proctor says

    Thank you for the opportunity to read your ebook free. Just finished reading it today, great read! Everything you wrote about was right on, the resources right on the money. Appreciate the time you took to put your thoughts and suggestions to print. I have already done several of your suggestions, so it’s great to see I’m on the right track.

    I am a 32 year old Christian woman, who has struggled with pornography since I was 8. Today I am 160 days sober. :) I refuse to go another decade in this crap!

    Appreciate another Christian speaking out about this topic offering hope and leading the way!! May God bless you and keep you standing strong and firm in Him.

    Thank you for leading by example to live in purity!

    AmyChristine Proctor
    Loveland, Colorado 80537
    Frontier Flight Attendant

    • shelley says

      Thank you so much for your encouragement and for taking the time to read our book. We pray that your 160 sober turns into many many more!


  2. Nikki says

    Thank you for this. Most organizations that deal with breaking porn addiction focus only on the men. Or they only speak of women as codependents of addicted men. It is very alienating to the women who are hooked. I have been struggling for years & it has hurt my ministry & my marriage. Porn definitely leads to more serious issues & I have fallen to temptation far too many times. I will defeat this addiction. & it will be because women like you have been unafraid to cone forward & let me know I’m not alone.

    • shelley says

      Thank you so much for sharing your struggle and for the encouragement. It has not been easy writing this book and speaking out on this topic but it is so worth it to help women like you. I just said a prayer for you and pray that God brings complete victory, healing and freedom in your life!

  3. Mike says

    I got to your site via an email link to the She’s Somebody’s Daughter site.
    I applaud you and your ministry. I have been a Christian for over 40 years, active in church leadership and teaching. Pornography had never been an issue for me until I sought to assess it’s accessibility to my children via the internet. I was trapped for 15 years. When discovered, it very nearly ended our 40+ year marriage. Rescued by God’s Grace, I am 3 year sober and active in a Celebrate Recovery ministry.
    While men are the largest client of pornography and suffer guilt & isolation because of it, many women have a great battle with it too.
    God’s Grace is the answer!

  4. Mike says

    I need to add that individuals involved with another who is addicted to porn need help in dealing with this problem too. Where can anyone turn to get support when their spouse has a problem with pornography. This is a whole field of ministry that needs to be addressed by the body of Christ.

  5. Penny says

    Hi. I am a young lady from South Africa who found your website via your youtube video post. I just want to thank you for sharing your testimony. I too have been struggling with porn and masturbation for the last few decades and have been trying to get free for a long time. It feels like such a stumbling block in my spiritual walk. I have alot of people that speak to me about their issues and depend on me for advice so its really hard to ‘come-out’ with my problem especially since many see me as a pillar. I have confessed many times to God but I feel like even God is tired of me now. I have recently started on my ‘journey to healing’. I am reading your book and pray with all my heart that this be my turning point because even though no one knows, i feel like I have disappointing many.
    Thank you Shelly, you have no idea how much hope you have given me.

    • shelley says

      You’re welcome Penny! I’m thankful you found the video, our site and now our book. I pray Christ truly brings healing and freedom in your life!

  6. Michelle says

    Hi Shelly

    Wow, saw your video/testimony on YouTube, it led me here. I’ve been looking for teachings and for encouragement for a long time. I really want to encourage you to keep sharing your testimony. You are truly helping so many women through your story.

    It’s beautiful to see the body of Christ being real

    Thank you!

  7. marc says

    My name is Marc and I’m a man. I read your blog thanks to the site Nycodem.net. If I’m writing this is because I myself through the situation you have lived. My father is a man of God, a pastor and it’s since my teens that I’m addicted to pornography and masturbation. And until now, with 19 years, I can not stop me whenever I’m on the internet to visit pornographic sites. And each time, I have remorse. So when I decided to stop the temptation becomes greater. Then reading your testimony and the steps you took to get to be liberated from this link I started to understand that the Lord has a wonderful plan for me and really wants me to be issued, and that by my own conviction . Thank you for your courage because thanks to your testimony, I can cross with Jesus that dark part of my life. GOD bless you

    • shelley says

      Marc, I pray that you also find the freedom Christ has for you! Thank you for stopping by and sharing.

  8. Julie says

    I am a 17 year old girl and i have been addicted since i was about 5 or 6 and have found no solution in becoming free of this sin. Ive tried many different things and techniques but none have helped. I do feel that I am getting closer to liberation and trust in the Lord that I will get through this someday but its still really hard. I will never give up. All I ask is that whoever reads this will please pray for me to overcome this addiction, as well as for my boyfriend who happens to be in the same situation since he was 8. We are both doing what we can to stop and are helping eachother out, but it is still hard for us to accomplish individually. Please pray for us, we want to be free. Thank you for this website and for your encouragement :) .

    • shelley says

      You are welcome! I’m glad you found this website and encouragement here. I just prayed for you to overcome this addiction in the strength only Jesus can give you.


  9. James says

    I saw your testimony on Youtube and I just wanted to say thank you. I’m trying as well to stop completely. Please pray for me please. I’ve been addicted since I was 10 and I’m now 24. I just don’t want it to control my life anymore.

    Thanks for listening Shelley,


  10. Grace says

    i’m a 15 year old girl who is struggling with a pornography addiction since i was 8 years old . I have tried so many things to help me stop but nothing seems to work , i thank God that i have found this website because it was getting to the point where the guilt was so bad i almost committed suicide because i felt so worthless and disgusted in myself . i want to find a way to let my parent know but i don’t know how to say it , i’m praying for God to give me the strength to tell them so they can allow me to buy this book .

    Thanks for listening 😀

  11. Glenn says

    Dear Shelley:

    Thanks SO much to you and your husband. I just listened heart-felt over a number of days to your witness on https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ppKsaePpmrk. Being a male, I wasn’t going to contact you until you mentioned your husband. Then it became OK! Though the details are of course too complicated to communicate here, I’m negatively effecting my (honestly) great and God-blessed marriage with the problem you cover. Though I’m a Catholic Christian, I’m not at this time comfortable with my church per se for a group. So I’m kicking around a Christian therapist and–since listening to you–a 12 Step group. Can you recommend any in my area? Richardson (Dallas area), Texas 75080 They post some on-line, of course. But I’d especially trust your input. Thanks again you two. In the Love of Christ, Glenn

  12. Dave says

    Hello, I am a Christian man who has been fighting addition to lust, masterbation, and porn for over 35 years. I am a man who is involved in Street ministry and abortion clinic street counseling. I have everyone fooled that I am a in control wonderfully sprit led Christian man living out the will of God in all area’s of my life. I am such a hipocrite and deceiver. I prayed and and continue to pray and make no head way for decades. I read my Bible regularly and are involved at my Gospil based church. I even run a weekly Bible study at my church. I can have success for many weeks even months on end and then always fail. I know the truth that there is only victory in Jesus Christ and him alone. I am at my wits end. I know my eternity hangs in the balance due to my actions. I have no other additions that I am aware of. I only want to be a true man of God. Atleast I hope and pray that is the truth. I am concerned with my salvation. I want to be in Heaven with my Lord one day. I am so ashamed. The female form is used by satan to distroy me. There must be victory and the victory only comes through Jesus Christ. Like Paul says “examine your self” I don’t like what I see. I appreciated you hearing me out. I am so fitigued and burned out. This sin so afftects my life. Can you believe I am a 56 year old man still dealing with this battle. Thank you Dave

  13. Hanah says

    I Shelley! Is there any way that I can just talk to you about my struggles without everyone seeing it?

  14. Phil says

    hi how can one know if they are ready to date and when they are how do they protect themselves. any advice would be much appreciated.

  15. Julius Mays says

    Hi everybody, I’m Julius and I am 19 years old and 100% heterosexual and I say that because of what I’m going to mention, those of you reading this comment. I too struggle with porn like many Christian men, women, young boys and girls struggle with. You are not alone. I’ve masturbated since I was 11 and saw porn since I was 12. I’ve struggled with lust, porn and masturbation ever since I surrendered to Christ (not sure how old I was). I also have pedophilia (I am sexually attracted to little to young girls, not boys) and I hated myself for it until I told someone about it and was healed (James 5:16). I have never sexually abused a child at all, but I have lusted after them (and let’s face it women aren’t the only ones you see wearing skimpy clothes these days. Where I live and go in the summertime I see little to young girls in short clothes all the time. That must be one of the reasons why summer is my most hated season of the year). There had been victories and healing (James 5:16) through Jesus, but there has also been failures.

    To Grace: I had wanted to commit suicide because of how I felt about myself and God as well. So believe me, you’re not alone at all. In fact I have a lot of cut marks on my arm, some of them can never go away. So believe me Grace, you’re not alone. But read and follow James 5:16, it’ll definitely helps; it helped me.

    So yes Mrs. Hitz and everyone else, that is me (in my sexually sinfully speaking). For sometime in my life I was taught that it was impossible for women to struggle with sexual sin, that it was a male issue, and that women should have the pepper spray in their purse and the guys should have their eyes in pain. I felt guilty in believing that guys were the villains. I felt ashamed about my gender all the way that I wanted to commit suicide because of it. I took what I was taught and told God that if only You made me female, my walk with You would be so much easier. But you know what I found out…. ALL OF THAT STUFF IS A BOLD FACE LIE!! All of what the church was talking about sexual sin and lust being a male issue was a lie the whole time, and yes I said THE WHOLE TIME! I had a talk with my father one night and told him that sexual sin was a male issue, and boy what a talk it was indeed. He told me something that was a eye-opener for me!! Okay you all know the story of Joseph and Potiphar’s wife right? Well everytime that verse is brought up in the church, it’s always assumed to the guys to run away from sexual sin (1 Corinthians 6:18 also). The church focuses so much on the one who ran than on the one he was running from. That’s right, Potiphar’s wife! In Genesis 39:7-12 it clearly says that Joseph was well-built and handsome in appearance. Potiphar’s wife visually (which people say that only guys have by the way) longed on him and wanted him to sleep with her. Joseph did not want to sleep with her, in fact he did not want anything to do with her. She came after him day after day until it got to the point where she caught him by his garment to sleep with her causing him to run out of the house! Joseph was 100% innocent in act and the villain in that was Potiphar’s wife. She lusted after him and tried to get Joseph to sleep with her even when he said no. Joseph was the one who should’ve had the pepper spray!

    So you see sisters even Scripture shows that sexual sin is in both men and women (If you don’t believe me read Genesis 39:6-12). Also if males were the only ones who struggled with sexual sin, then we would be the only ones created sexually. But in Genesis it says that both male and female were created and were to be fruitful and multiply! So no sisters you are NOT alone!

    There is freedom and healing (James 5:16).

    We are in this battle together! And we can’t do it alone without Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior (John 15:5). I hope this was an encouragement to everyone because I can’t find something like this anywhere else. 

    you’re brother in Christ 

    P.S.: Sexual sin was never just a guy thing to begin with. It was always a HUMAN thing!

  16. Brianne says

    Hello everyone:
    My name is Brianne and I am a recovering porn addict that has relapsed. I have struggled with pornography since junior college, college, graduate school – this happened when a friend told me to masturbate to feel better; since I am a Christian. She believed that sin was not being committed and that I would feel better – and that was my first initial contact with masturbation. However, when there is one demon another demon comes along – and the name of that demon is called pornography. Yes, I am ashamed to say that I love, enjoy, and became gratified with pornography. I have allowed loneliness, weight, and lack of (total) confidence in myself to become excuses to entertain pornography. I realize that I am shaming God, but I cannot get my lustful nature control. The Word of the Lord states “we must renew our minds in Christ Jesus,” but somewhere I am failing God and myself!

    Please help me,


  17. Anon says

    I’m 21…and I’m addicted to pornography. I totally hate myself. I can’t pray. Can’t read Bible and I feel so dead…all the psychologists I’m going to don’t have a clue about porn addiction or they are not Christians…I feel like there is no one on earth who knows what I’m going through…please.help.me.

  18. J says

    Hi Shelly,

    I saw your video and it brought tears to my eyes to finally hear another Christian woman share her testimony. There are barely resources out there for us. A lot of your own story sounded like mine. Although I did not experience sexual abuse, there is a history of alcoholism on my father side. He himself having been a great provider but lacking in emotional connection. Although I have yet to tell anyone I know I took the first step by joining a forum called RebootNation. org. I have met other Christians there although not a lot of women. I have been 25 days sober and I just want this out of my life.

    The one thing that has started to hit me is a bit of depression and a feeling of being stagnant, not able to move forward although I have stopped viewing porn. I am wondering if this was something you experienced and if you could share a bit on how does one start to build again from ground zero?

    Also, as far as recovery groups, or counseling, I am having a tough time finding one, specifically Christian for porn. What do you recommend? I live in California.

    • shelley says

      Thank you for reaching out. It is definitely a process and I share my process of healing in my book. Did you read it?

      As far as recovery groups specifically for Christians dealing with porn, they will be difficult to find. I have a few ministries listed on my resource page and you might also reach out and ask them for ideas of groups in California. http://www.christianwomenandporn.com/pornography-addiction-resources/

      Blessings to you in your journey to freedom!

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